So, you want to be happy do you?
When I was younger I remember always wanting more…I wanted to be independent, I wanted to travel, I wanted to do it all…because I knew I would be happy once I did.
And most of the time I was successful at just doing what I wanted…but that was when I didn’t have responsibilities like a mortgage, oh…and kids.
Becoming a parent was a big eye-opener. No longer did my needs come first…and rightly so they shouldn’t when you have kids…you need to give your kids your love and attention…you need to nurture them and protect them…you need to feed, cloth, and teach them…you need to be present.
But it isn’t easy, is it? But what does easy have to do with being happy? Absolutely nothing…and here’s why.
Our lives are not always easy…things happen…kids need our focus, the bills need to be paid, the roof leaks, the septic backs-up (yes, this happened...
I am having one of those parenting overwhelm days. The kind of day when you know you have a hundred or more things on your ‘to-do’ list and you have no idea where to start so you do nothing. I call this parenting paralysis.
This feeling of overwhelm starts in my head and I keep thinking about everything I have to do, and then it works its way into my body…I just want to curl up under my comforter, watch Netfix, and wish the day away.
My desk is covered in projects to finish, bills to pay, clients to get back to, and teacher thank you cards to fill out…
My sink is full of breakfast dishes that I can’t put into the dishwasher until I empty the clean dishes out…
The bathroom/laundry room floor is covered in a pile of dirty laundry…
The dog needs to be walked….
The grass needs to be cut….
The dining room table is covered in board games that I promised I wouldn’t move 3 days ago so the kids can finish their game…
Has this ever happened to you…you wake up one day and all the sudden everything is clear? You know exactly what you should be doing and you know exactly why you are doing it.
I can honestly say that I can count on one hand how many times this has happened to me in my lifetime.
But, this last time was different. It had an impact on my family life, my emotional health, my physical health, my spiritual health, and it also had a huge impact on the way I ran my business.
You may be wondering what could have such an impact on…really…all areas of my life.
The answer is simple. Clarity.
Knowing what was important to me, what will get me out of bed in the morning, and what will drive me forward all day, was the answer to finding a better way to live my life.
Let’s back up a minute…to over 19 years ago when I gave birth to my first daughter. I was one of those irritating parents that wanted to do everything right…all...
This is one word that has been on my mind lately, and even more so now that we are about to enter a new year.
Relationships – how to keep the good ones, get rid of the bad ones, and build stronger ones with the people closest to me.
2019 has proved to be a year of reflection for me. I didn’t wait until the end of the year to reflect, I did this all year long and came to a lot of conclusions, and in turn, came up with a few strategies that made my life (and the lives of all my family) better.
These strategies were not a cure all – they don’t work all the time and sometimes new situations come up that leave me wondering where I went wrong. Now that I know what to do, how could I go wrong again?
The answer is simple – I am only human.
I think the pressure to be perfect has long since left our home…the longing for peace has taken over the perfection sought after when you always feel you have to have a clean house, fresh baked cookies on the table,...
Please look at yourself through my eyes today.
You are enough.
I know it is hard right now. You don’t see how you will get through this. You are tired, frustrated, and lost.
Someday soon you won’t feel like this anymore.
You will feel loved, valued, appreciated, treasured, and fully and completely enough.
And I hope that someday comes soon for you because I know what it is like to feel the pain you are feeling right now.
You may have a new baby, a growing child, a teen, or an adult child – we are all together right now no matter what the age of our children.
You are surrounded with love and support, and a world of other women lifting you up on the days that you cannot lift yourself. Even if you don’t see us, we are here cheering you on and lifting you higher.
Fear not for your future because it is bright and full of contentment that is alien to you right now.
Your child will make mistakes, and so will you…and so will every...
Good morning friends! It’s early Saturday morning and my plan was to sleep in…but for some reason my eyes opened at 6:00 am and all I could think of was…what can I do for you today…what can we do here to make your life as a parent easier?
I wanted to share a bit of perspective with you and tell you a story about my week…and my hope is that someday you feel comfortable sharing with us…because I know this group is loving and supportive and a safe, non-judgy place to connect…and it always makes me feel better to share.
At the beginning of the week I felt defeated…and I think as parents we all feel like we are not doing enough, we are not working enough, we are not spending time with our family enough, we are not smart enough, strong enough, tall enough, short enough…or whatever. I was thinking about how I could do a better job with my work, I could connect more with my family, I could have more patience and send more love to...