Thanksgiving is supposed to be a warm, memory-making day.
But if your child tends to crumble under the noise, the relatives, the schedule changes, or the pressure to be “on,” the holiday can feel overwhelming for them and for you.
If meltdowns are common before, during, or after the big dinner, it’s not a parenting failure or a sign your child is “too sensitive.” It’s simply a sign that their nervous system is carrying more than it can hold.
Let’s walk through how to support them at every stage of the day.
Why Thanksgiving Triggers Big Emotions
Holidays stack stress in layers:
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Sensory overload (noise, smells, people, movement)
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Social expectations
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Unpredictability
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Feeling “watched” or judged
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Being in a new environment
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Long stretches of unstructured time
Kids and teens use behavior to communicate what their words can’t. Meltdowns aren’t defiance. They’re dysregulation.
Before: Set Up a Soft Landing
Preparation is one of the most loving tools we have.
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Preview the plan so there are no surprises.
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Let them choose a “reset spot” like a quiet room, porch, car, or corner.
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Pack regulation tools (headphones, fidgets, chargers, snacks).
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Protect the morning from too much stimulation.
When kids feel prepared, they feel safer.
During: Co-Regulate in Real Time
Your presence is their anchor.
Watch for small cues: tight shoulders, zoning out, irritability, clinging, or that “I want to escape” look.
Try:
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“Hey, let’s take a quick outside break.”
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“You can sit with me as long as you want.”
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“I can see this feels like a lot. I’m right here.”
Even a few minutes away from the crowd resets the whole system.
After: Help Them Come Down Gently
Once you’re home, your child may release everything they held together all day.
Normalize this.
Expect it.
Make it safe.
Try:
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Low-stimulation evening
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Simple routines
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A warm drink or shower
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A gentle check-in
Your calm helps their nervous system recharge.
Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be meltdown-free to be meaningful.
Connection, not perfection, is what matters most.
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